About this site
Why this exists — and who made it.
I spent months trying to find real information about egg freezing before I started. Not clinic brochures. Not forum posts from 2019. Not content optimized to make me feel comfortable enough to book a consultation. Information that would tell me what I was actually signing up for — the costs, the time, the emotional weight, the questions worth asking before I handed over $16,000 and two months of my life.
I didn't find it. So I built it.
The thing I want to be clear about
I'm in a position of real privilege to be doing any of this at all. The cost of egg freezing alone puts it out of reach for a lot of people. I started this process before being laid off — I was already emotionally invested before my employment situation changed. Before that, I tried to get fertility benefits added to my company's health plan while I was still there and it wasn't taken seriously. I know what it feels like to want access to something and hit a wall.
There are no ads, affiliate links, sponsored content, or clinic partnerships. This project exists simply to document one person's experience in real time and make the process feel a little less overwhelming for the next person.
What this site is
What Nobody Told Me documents the gap between official information and lived experience. The first guide is about egg freezing — written from a cycle in progress at NYU Langone Fertility Center in New York City in 2026. The journal tracks what's actually happening in real time.
Future guides will cover other major life decisions. Moving to a new city. Getting laid off. Freelancing. The things most people only understand after going through them. Each guide is written by someone who just did.
What this site isn't
Not medical advice. Not financial advice. Not a ranking of clinics or pharmacies. Not a guide to success — there's no guarantee any of this works out. This is one person's experience, one timeline, one set of circumstances. Take what's useful. Leave what isn't.
The name
It came from the thing I kept saying while I was researching: "Why didn't anyone tell me this?" Not because information doesn't exist — it does — but because it's scattered, clinical, or filtered through someone with a financial incentive to present it a certain way. The gap between what you're officially told and what you actually need to know is real. This site lives in that gap.
Questions, topic suggestions, or something you went through that belongs here: hello@whatnobodytold.me. I read everything.